Ive been contemplating the concept of “tough love”a lot lately & I am starting to believe that it is used as a barrier mechanism to remove the responsibility that family members, loved ones, and human beings have to one another. When I tell you to “suck it up” “shake it off” or whatever other tough love vernacular we can think of, that is a message that says I can’t bare to witness or hold space for your pain right now, because of what that persons pain reflects in you. It also removes us of guilt, making it no longer our problem, because that person just couldn’t simply let it go or move on as you suggested. I guess this just leads me to this question: What does the concept of “tough love” really say about the lovelessness that is present in our relationships with ourselves? As well as the lack of responsibility that we as families and or communities have to each other?